Our Universe is designed to support balance in giving and receiving. If you think about it, the two are inextricably linked: In order for someone to receive, someone else has to give. In order for someone to give, there has to be someone else to receive it.
A person is balanced when she gives and receives equally. Note that this doesn’t mean that she has to get the same that she gives, because maybe her needs are different from those around her. It means that the overall quality and impact of what she gives is equal to what she receives. Having this balance creates joy in her life.
But a significant portion of the people I serve – in fact, all of my recent Inner Circle clients – were severely out-of-balance when we met. Their lives were all about give, give, give and they didn’t receive much in return. These smart, sensitive women had been carrying secret burdens of anger and resentment, because they felt unappreciated, unloved, or unsupported. They were far from joyful during most of their days.
What became clear with every one of these women is that they were out of balance not because people weren’t giving to them, but because they were blocked from receiving. They had a deep, innate, unresolved collection of old emotions, limiting beliefs, and karmic debts that were keeping them from accepting all the goodness that life has to offer them.
“Like what?” you might ask.
Anything. Everything. Because how you do one thing is how you do everything. So if you’re blocking one area of your life, you’re blocking all areas. Some areas are easier to recognize than others and serve as clear, helpful signs of imbalance. Here are The Big Three that I keep seeing:
1. Credit card debt
Money is a great place to start because money is such a popular vehicle for energy in our world, so it’s a very clear indicator of your balance of giving and receiving. If you’re blocked in receiving, then you’re not getting enough money, which means you’re also feeling the pinch of not having the things that money can buy. To compensate, you try to force the flow of receiving by using your credit card to purchase – but you’re spending money you haven’t actually received yet.
How high is your credit card debt? That is your tangible measure of how out-of-balance you are.
2. Blocked intuition
To be intuitive, you have to receive messages, information, and energy from your environment, including angels, guides, and other souls that have messages for you. If you’re not letting yourself hear them (which, by the way, is definitely YOUR block, because they are all DEFINITELY talking to you), then what you’re really blocking at the core of it all is love. You’re blocking their love for you AND you’re blocking your love for yourself, because you don’t find yourself worthy and capable enough to be intuitive and connect with them.
3. Broken relationships
If you’re blocked from receiving, then most (if not all) of your relationships will be dysfunctional in some way – especially your soul mate relationship. This one will be the worst, because your soul mate’s agreement is to help you grow, so that person is going to be your best mirror for all of the imbalances in your life. And because you know that this person is your soul mate (your soul knows even if your mind doesn’t), it hurts even more that you don’t feel loved and supported by this person, which breeds even more anger and resentment in the relationship.
Or maybe you don’t relate to what I’m saying…because you’re so blocked that you haven’t allowed your soul mate to show up at all.
How are these signs are showing up in your life right now?
Did they help you recognize any other signs of out-of-balance give-and-take for you?
Tell me about them in the comments below.
Then in the next article we’ll explore where these blocks came from.