Every person possesses masculine and feminine energies that manifest in related traits. I don’t mean whether they wear dresses vs. pants, the length of their hair, or how they walk. I’m talking about deeper traits that shape their personality.
The masculine is about intellect, rigidity, and control; the feminine is about intuition, fluidity, expansiveness, and allowing. We all have both. An individual’s balance between the two is part of what shapes her personality. That balance is constantly shifting throughout your lifetime and even in the course of one day. The shift happens automatically in response to your thoughts, feelings, and environment; you can also shift it intentionally through meditation and energy healing.
In my previous articles I’ve written about how the planet and we who live upon it are shifting from a dominance of masculine energy toward a balance between masculine and feminine. Notice that I said “balance”: We are not moving in an entirely feminine world, but into a state where masculine and feminine are honored equally and used in harmony with each other.
Whether you are male or female it’s awesome to embrace your feminine power – but before you go trashing your masculine side and trying to make yourself completely intuitive and fluid, let’s give some props to the positive aspects of your masculine energies. There are reasons why we want to retain them; they make the difference between having a purpose and fulfilling it.
Here are three ways to apply your masculine traits for positive purposes.
1. Be productive
One of the first TED Talks that ever went viral was Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor sharing her experience of having a stroke. Because the stroke temporarily incapacitated the left side of her brain, she was able to experience life from an exclusively “right-brained” state – purely intuitive. She describes being fascinated with the beauty of everything around her – even the most mundane things – and losing her awareness of the boundaries that defined where she ended and her environment began. (A human experience of Oneness?) But she also shares how she became lost in that experience when any practical mind would know that she should be urgently dialing 911 for help. In this case, though, she had no practical mind.
Dr. Bolte Taylor’s experience is a perfect demonstration of how the left and right hemispheres of the brain – the homes of masculine intellect and feminine intuition, respectively – work together to move us through this world. It also hits on one of the challenges I’ve seen lightworkers (including myself) experience along our paths: We crave intuitive connection, but when we finally get it we do nothing with it. We learn that the Law of Attraction can bring opportunities to us based just on our thoughts, but then we miss those opportunities because we don’t do anything with them. We just sit there thinking our thoughts.
We use our masculine energy to integrate the Divine into practical reality. Our feminine energies are what connect us to the Divine so that we can have intuitive connection – or in layman’s terms, inspiration. But inspiration is nothing without action. It’s our masculine side that’s responsible for action. It takes the intuitive information we receive and processes it into information, making decisions based on that information. The result is inspired action.
2. Be determined
This article was born out of a conversation I had last week with one of my clients. I’ve been helping her find the path to fulfilling her purpose through her business, and we were discussing the fact that she had already built one successful business, but because it eventually failed when the sponsoring company folded she’s been facing fears and doubts in building her current business. What came up in that conversation was how successful men in business don’t feel those same limitations. I can’t tell you how many profiles I’ve read of modern business moguls that tout the number of business they’ve built from the ground up – failing to mention the many telecom and web ventures that fell apart during the IT bust. These men are able to separate the eventual failures of these business from their own successes in creating them.
You have that degree of sheer will within you, thanks to your masculine side. You can summon that clarity whenever you want, now that you know it’s there. It can be the part of you that says “feel the fear and do it anyway.” It’s the part of you that can save yourself from being held up or held down by past mistakes and power your way forward.
3. Shut out the naysayers
I think we can agree that “not asking for directions” is a masculine trait. Men get made fun of for it (mostly by frustrated women who spend their time in passenger seats) but there’s a positive spin too. If you look at it from a different angle there’s an admirable quality to not letting anyone tell you that you don’t know how to do something. Perhaps driving isn’t the best place to apply it, but a business plan might be. Or an invention. Any innovation.
What’s the one I keep seeing on Facebook? “People who say something can’t be done need to get out of the way of the person who’s doing it.” That’s the masculine “Get out of my way, I’m doing this my own way” trait applied for a positive purpose.
Have you ever intentionally shunned or embraced your masculine traits?
What did you learn from that experience?
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