When Healing Feels Stuck, But You’re Doing Everything ‘Right’

Do you feel like you’re doing all the right things to heal—
but somehow still not making the progress you want?

You’ve been committed.
You’ve shown up for the work.
You’ve said yes to treatments, tools, and practices that felt aligned at the time.

And yet, something still isn’t shifting.

From the outside, no one could say you’re not trying. You might even resent someone suggesting you’re not fully in.

But here’s a gentle invitation:
What if the parts of your healing that feel “stuck” aren’t because you’re doing something wrong—but because the voice that feels most convincing isn’t the one that leads to healing?

The Voices That Shape Your Choices

If you’ve ever felt pulled between what you know you need and what feels most comfortable, you’re not alone.

Inside you are many voices. Some of them are protective. Some are perceptive. And some have been there for so long that you’ve stopped questioning where they came from.

You might hear things like:

• “You’ve already tried so many things—what if this doesn’t work either?”
• “What if I start and don’t follow through? I’ve got so much on my plate already.”
• “You need to be more sure before you commit.”

They don’t always feel like fear. They often feel like logic, caution, or “being smart.”

Some of the voices speak with such strength and clarity that it’s hard to believe they come from anything other than wisdom or intuition.

Underneath these voices are emotional patterns that were formed long ago—patterns rooted in what I call the Core Wounds: Unlovability and Unworthiness.

These aren’t casual terms. They describe the first energetic imprints that disrupted your connection to Source and shaped how you learned to survive. Over time, they grew into patterns of belief and behavior that still show up today—especially in your healing process.

When you look closer, you might begin to see how those Core Wounds express themselves:

• The fear of being wrong or getting it wrong (Unlovability).
• The drive to prove you’re doing enough (Unworthiness).
• The need to stay safe by staying in control (a safety strategy built on Unlovability).

These aren’t just thoughts. They are the energetic roots of why you need healing in the first place—and why you haven’t healed already.

The False Yes

This part might feel tender to hear—and that’s OK.

Many people on their healing path are doing a lot. They’re investing time, money, and heart.
But that doesn’t mean the steps they’re taking are all leading forward.

Sometimes the healing work we choose is the work that doesn’t make us confront what we’re most afraid of.
Sometimes it’s what keeps the fear-based voices quiet, because we never have to risk change.

That can look like:

• Repeating treatments that bring temporary relief but never reach the root.
• Saying no to deeper work because “the timing isn’t right.”
• Telling yourself, “I’ll know when I’m ready,” without questioning what “readiness” is really being defined by.

None of this means you’re doing anything wrong.
There’s no rule saying you always have to be moving forward.
But if you want to be moving forward and you’re not, then exploring these truths might be part of the solution.

Because I’ve learned—both in myself and in the women I work with—that sometimes, what feels aligned is actually what feels familiar.
And the familiar isn’t always what leads us deeper.

That’s how the same patterns that created your illness continue to run the show—even while you’re trying to heal.

I want you to know—none of this comes from judgment.
These are patterns we all move through. I’ve seen them in myself, and I’ve sat with countless women as they’ve named them for the first time.
Whenever you are ready, I’ll be here with open arms.

Why the Real “Yes” Is Hard to Hear

There’s another voice in you.

It doesn’t shout. It doesn’t insist.
It might not even feel like “intuition” as you’ve come to define it.

But it’s there—the one that quietly says, “This is for you.”

That voice can be hard to hear, not because it’s unclear, but because it gets drowned out by every pattern that’s been trying to keep you safe.

And sometimes it gets confused with other people’s voices, too.

A partner who asks, “Didn’t you already try something like this?”
A parent who never understood your healing path.
A friend whose silence you interpret as disapproval—even if they never said a word.

Whether those voices were spoken or simply feared, they reinforce the same message: Don’t go there. Not yet.

And if that message keeps you circling around what you already know—repeating healing steps that feel good but don’t truly challenge you—you’re not stuck because you haven’t tried hard enough.

You’re stuck because you haven’t been heard by yourself.

The Inaction Tax

Every time you say yes to the voices that say “Not yet,” it doesn’t just keep you where you are.

It teaches your system that fear gets to decide.

It strengthens the patterns that are causing what you’re trying to heal.

It makes the next “yes” harder to hear.

I call this The Inaction Tax—the hidden cost of staying in patterns that feel safe but don’t actually create progress.

Admittedly it’s a harsh name, but that’s because it’s a harsh reality.

It’s not a moral failing—it’s a nervous system strategy. One I’ve had to meet in myself more than once.

There is no shame in paying that tax.
But there is power in recognizing that you’ve been paying it.

And there is even more power in choosing not to keep paying it.
Because once you name the pattern, you have the opportunity to interrupt it.
You can stop letting the loudest voices decide.
You can realign with what actually matters to you and move in that direction—even if your voice is still shaking.

That shift doesn’t have to be dramatic—and it should never be forced.
But it does have to be honest.

What Readiness Actually Looks Like

Readiness doesn’t mean the fear is gone.
It means you’re willing to act even though it’s there.

Not to override it.
Not to force yourself into something you’re not emotionally prepared for.

But to finally stop waiting for permission from fear—or from the voices that echo it.

Readiness is not a feeling. It’s a threshold.

It sounds like:

• “I still have doubts… and I know this is my next step.”
• “I’m afraid… and I’m more afraid of staying in the same loop.”
• “I’m not sure what happens after this… but I know I can’t not do it.”