Have you ever had a moment when there was a great opportunity in front of you – something that’s completely in alignment in with your life purpose – but you couldn’t decide whether to take it?
When you’re living in alignment with your purpose, the “best next step” of your journey often gets dropped in your lap. BUT – it doesn’t wear a label that says “I am your next step.” That darn Free Will stuff requires that you choose the opportunity – or not.
When you’re open, it’s easy to recognize these gifts that you’re attracting from the Universe when they arrive. You can feel the “Yes!” in the core of your being.
But if you’ve still got some issues you’re working through, the synchronicities that guide you along your path might be harder to recognize. In fact, you could be at risk of talking yourself out of them. Not that it’s your fault – it goes back to what I often point out about your ego: It believes its job is to keep you from expanding and becoming more visible, so that you can stay safe. As a result, unfortunately, those fear-based objections from the ego can be strongest and loudest in the most important moments of your life.
What’s extra frustrating is that the voice of your ego doesn’t introduce itself – “Hi, I’m your Ego and I’ll be representing all of your fears today.” Instead it shows up as very practical, logical reasons why you shouldn’t pursue the opportunity before you. Reasons like:
- “The timing isn’t right.”
- “I’ve tried this before and it didn’t work.”
- “I can do this myself.”
- “My spouse/friends/parents will think it’s a bad idea.”
- “I can’t afford it.”
What’s tricky about any of these is that it could be absolutely true: You might have failed at something similar before. Your husband or wife absolutely might object – especially if the opportunity is something spiritual and your spouse has a soul-mate contract to keep you grounded. And your bank account won’t lie to you about whether the money is there or not.
You already know this too: The bigger the opportunity, the bigger the fears that accompany it. Those voices get even louder, don’t they?
Let me tell you, I’ve run into this myself hundreds of times. One significant example is working with my coach Christine Kane: I was on her mailing list for five years and received countless invitations to attend her events or join her programs. For five years I talked myself out of working with her, using mostly the money reason and the spouse reason, with a sprinkling of “do it myself” in there too.
But after finally taking the leap a year ago and joining her Uplevel Academy, I wish I could go back five years and give myself a good talking to, because in this last year my understanding of how to run my business has exploded. But that’s nothing next to my clarity of who I’m running it for – you – and what purpose I’m here to serve for you. Between the skills that I’ve learned and the limiting mindsets that I’ve broken through, I am a changed person. I imagine where I could be right now if I’d said yes to her invitation five years ago, and a little regret creeps in.
If I could go back five years and talk to me, this might be what I’d say:
Chris [because five years ago I went by that name], I know that you’re feeling torn right now. It looks like there are so many reasons to say No to this right now. And you absolutely have that choice. But here’s what I know: There’s never going to be a moment where all systems are go and there’s no reason against taking this step.
You are waiting for 100% certainty, and your very strong, very smart, logical mind will always be able to create doubt. It can always identify ways that this opportunity might not work out. That’s its job – to evaluate all the possible scenarios.
Your mind’s secret job in this case is to keep you from ever making a decision, so that you don’t have to risk putting yourself out there to the world.
But recognize something else: While this paralyzing back-and-forth is going on in your mind, there’s another influence coming from elsewhere. In the core of your being is a small, strong voice. It isn’t as loud as the voice of your mind because it knows it doesn’t have to be. It’s like the wise person in the room who knows that it’s right, and that the other people only talk louder and longer because they’re not as sure of themselves.
That small, strong voice represents everything inside of you that attracted this opportunity. It’s telling you, “This is it. Your time is now.”
So let me remind you what you already know: Listen to that voice. Get quiet and hear what that voice has to say. Let it speak to you in the language of Higher Wisdom. You know that this is the key.
You will never argue or rationalize yourself into this decision. You can only feel your way into it. That is how you find 100% certainty.
And if you can’t label it certainty, call it taking a chance.
You’ve got this.
I love you.