We all love stories.
“Once upon a time…”
Many of my favorites have taken place on the small screen.
“Here’s a story of a lovely lady…”
“Just sit right back and you’ll hear a tale
A tale of a fateful trip…”
Stories entertain us. Some even inspire us.
Then there are the stories that hold us back. As much as I already understood that, I recently had an epiphany that took it to a new level.
During a recent business retreat, my coach Christine Kane had us enumerate the stories that keep us anchored in the past, unable to take advantage of the opportunities in the present or hold visions for the future.
My initial reaction to this exercise was a jaded one; after doing my own ThetaHealing for so long, I could rattle off stories and limiting beliefs like an auctioneer soliciting bids. I’m a pro at knowing my own weaknesses. But what I learned by the end of that hour about myself and the effects of my stories was astounding. Eye-opening.
We all came up with long lists of stories that we were using as excuses and rules for moving forward. Stories like:
- “I have to be perfect.”
- “I have to know how everything will turn out before I can begin.”
- “I don’t know how to make/save/spend money wisely.”
- “Nobody buys in a bad economy.”
- “Nobody’s interested in paying for what I offer.”
- “I have to wait to be chosen/recognized.”
- “I don’t have time to get it all done.”
I’m sure that as you’re reading, you’re coming up with some of your own.
These are all stories about what has happened to us in the past. Unfortunately we’re so convinced that they’re true, we never give ourselves a chance to try and disprove them.
Storytelling comes from the need to justify our fear of moving forward. These stories are the gremlins that sabotage our best intentions. They are the reasons that things we want haven’t manifested yet. As long as we keep telling these old stories, we keep attracting the undesirable circumstances of how things were.
But knowing the impact of our stories wasn’t the big epiphany that I had at the retreat. I’ve been dealing with stories – my own and my clients’ – for several years now through ThetaHealing.
My true epiphany hit me like a ton of bricks: It’s possible to live without the stories. It’s time to live without them. It’s possible to leave all stories behind – not just the stories themselves but the need to have stories at all.
It’s no longer necessary to name the blocks in order to overcome them. We no longer need to get permission to move forward – from ourselves or anyone else – by justifying why we haven’t already.
All that’s necessary now is the clear commitment to being bigger than our stories. To declare to ourselves, as often as necessary, that the importance of what we are choosing outweighs and outshines any potentially crippling heaviness that I had been carrying with my stories.
I see this for you. The light that shines within you is bright enough to illuminate your highest and best path, casting the drama into the shadows. No story of the past can keep you from taking the very next best step toward whatever it is that you want for yourself. No one else needs to let you.
Let’s do this together, shall we? Let’s hold each other accountable to leaving our stories behind for good. It starts with the stories that we tell each other and the language that we use to tell them. Here are a couple ways that I suggest cleaning up that language – a few Footsteps to take on your path this week:
- The answer to “How are you?” is now “Fantastic!” – “Amazing!” – “Better than I could have imagined!” – because no story of what has happened in the past, even as recent as five minutes ago, can take away your power to start over right now and choose to be in your happy place.
- Let’s strike the word “but” from our vocabularies. “Yeah, but…” becomes “Yes, and…” “And” is an adder while “but” is a subtractor. (I learned that in a comedy improve workshop, of all places to find wisdom.)
Do you see how changing our language is a step in shifting our mindsets?
I’d love to hear from you about this. What are some ways that you’ve been keeping yourself stuck in your stories? Post a comment below and share how you’re going to stop the storytelling now and move forward into happiness and success.
In Love and Light,